Key Idea: Conversational Narcissism

• Focusing on how to impress others—being smart, funny, or likable—can make conversation feel selfish and stressful.
• A conversational narcissist tends to dominate the conversation, talking at length about their own goals or personal details without making room for the other person.
• Some do this out of insecurity: they’re trying to impress, or they fear awkward silences. They may even recognize the habit but struggle to stop.

How to Respond

• If the relationship matters, assert your need to participate. For example: “Is it my turn yet? Do you want to hear about my goal?”
• To shift away from talking about yourself, practice assertive curiosity. Ask specific follow-up questions using what, how, why, and when—not just “Tell me more.”

Main Takeaway

Many people fear awkward silence more than rejection or judgment. Curiosity helps ease that fear and creates a more balanced conversation.